Stefanie Marianné, Certified Life Coach, joins the Monday Networking on Zoom to share tips about time management and how you can manage your mind to manage your time.
Here is the transcript from the presentation:
Ryan: All right, so everybody now as we continue Back to School month, for the entire month of August, our goal was to focus on finding speakers who are related to helping us learn new skills for our business, since August is traditionally back to school when those of us who have children send the, the kids back to school, it’s an opportunity for us, as well, as business owners to learn new skills and figure out how we can improve.
Ryan: And so, Stefanie and I met a couple of months ago at our 4th Friday Meet Up event and she had a topic in mind right away when we started talking about a presentation here with our group. And so everyone, I’d like to introduce Stefanie Marianné who’s going to talk to us about “Time Drama and Mind Trauma”.
Ryan: So, Stefanie, you have the floor.
Stefanie: Hello everyone, so, I, when Ryan and I met at the 4th Friday Meet Up and we were talking about this month and speaking, the first thing that came to mind with back to school, is how busy everyone seems to get. And then time management came to my mind in regards to what I wanted to be presenting today, so I’ve actually created a slideshow for all of us to look at, which I will screen share with all of you.
Stefanie: So, uhm, let’s see. Let me screen share. Here we go, there we are. All right everyone, so I’ve created this.
Stefanie: So, my name is Stefanie Marianné. I am a Certified Life Coach. I really love what I do.
Stefanie: I’m really passionate about helping people become the highest and most evolved versions of themselves. I’ve always loved personal development and growth.
Stefanie: I can listen and read to books and podcasts about personal development and growth literally every day.
Stefanie: I’m currently working on a podcast and a YouTube channel. One of my goals is to give a Ted Talk one of these days.
Stefanie: So, the reason why time management is such a topic that’s near and dear to my heart is because of the fact that I’m a former procrastinator.
Stefanie: Time management used to be one of the weakest areas of my life, until I became a Life Coach and an entrepreneur myself.
Stefanie: In my free time, I like to take walks, I like to read. I travel to Arizona pretty often, and then, I also really like creating concepts to teach. That’s one of my favorite parts about being a life coach.
Stefanie: Favorite ice cream flavor is brown butter cookie dough. It’s a must try if you guys have never had it.
Stefanie: My e-mail is here. I have an Instagram page, if you want to follow for more tips and tricks. Life hacks.
Stefanie: OK, so let’s get this presentation started. This presentation is for you if you are busy all of the time or most of the time. If you think there’s always much to do, you’ve got a lot that you’ve got to do all the time. You don’t have enough time to get things done.
Stefanie: You have an idea of what needs to be done, but you don’t get anything done because you don’t really have a clear plan. You spin around in indecision. You don’t know what to do, or you tell yourself you don’t know what to do.
Stefanie: You get confused or overwhelmed easily when you look at your to-do list. You find yourself procrastinating when it is time to get a task done.
Stefanie: You don’t get things done, you rarely follow through on your commitments, or you run late. You’re not punctual, and as business owners you know that punctuality in showing your clients that you value their time is very important.
Stefanie: Uhm, so where I want to start off is I really want to talk about what time actually is. Time is in your mind. It’s a social construct that we have all adapted to and we label the time that we actually have. We label it with work time, family time, alone time.
Stefanie: We label it and what we do is, we compartmentalize it in that way and what I’d really like to offer, what I offer most of my clients, is that there is just time, and you manage yourself in it. It is whatever you decide it is.
Stefanie: And when you have things that you commit to, or tasks that you want to complete, you get to decide how long those things will take you to get done.
Stefanie: The last thing I want to share about time, that really helped me realize, and helps a lot of my clients look at time differently, is that it is a valuable resource. It is actually your most valuable resource, especially as an entrepreneur and it is a non-renewable resource.
Stefanie: It’s your most valuable, but it’s the non-renewable resource, so that is kind of the way I’d like to offer for you to think about time.
Stefanie: The other part about time is you’re not busy. You just think you are. What you think is the problem is that I don’t have enough time, there is so much to do.
Stefanie: My business is, you know, my clients need too much from me. The kids are going back to school and then traffic and road closures, especially here in Indianapolis. Y’all know, you know how our roads are, but you think the problem is the roads and the traffic, and that’s why you’re running late.
Stefanie: And what you’ve done, is that you’ve identified yourself, I’m a procrastinator. I’m busy. You’ve created an identity for yourself.
Stefanie: As though this is just a casual thing outside of you, but it affects your productivity and you’ve given your power away to this identity that you’ve created of yourself based on how you look at time.
Stefanie: You look at time as though you’re a victim of it and it is the problem, when really the problem is you think it’s a problem.
Stefanie: So, you practice this self-imposed identity everyday. If you identify as a person that runs late all the time, you practice running late everyday. If you identify as a procrastinator, you practice procrastination everyday. If you identify as someone that’s busy all the time, you practice being busy all the time.
Stefanie: And then the thoughts that you have about time, they affect the way you feel.
Stefanie: So if you say to yourself, I’m busy, I have so much to do, that thought feels overwhelming. So, you feel overwhelmed. I’m always late, feels complacent, so you’re just settling in this identity of I’m just a person that’s late.
Stefanie: Those thoughts that you have about time and you thinking time is the problem.
Stefanie: They do is, they cause you to spin around, and indecision, rush around trying to get things done.
Stefanie: You procrastinate even further and then you don’t plan out your time and that just kind of creates not getting any done, anything done, no closer to knowing what to do.
Stefanie: And then more evidence that you are the identity that you’ve created for yourself. Uhm, it’s really interesting.
Stefanie: Like I said, most people think they’re a victim of time and it’s just something that happens to them, and then that usually causes unintentional thoughts, feelings and actions that don’t create a conscious and deliberate life. It just isn’t productive.
Stefanie: I have a solution for you.
Stefanie: I always like to say, I say this actually every morning to myself. When I manage my time, I manage my mind, and when I manage my mind, I manage my time.
Stefanie: I want you to know that life is not busy being busy. It’s not a thing. It’s just a thought. It’s not a circumstance. It’s not just who you are, it’s just what you think.
Stefanie: And so, you’re just thinking that way about your life and it just causes a lot of undue stress for you, and you just show up in your life that way, cause you think that way.
Stefanie: The first step to really managing your mind around time is letting go of your busy identity. Whatever the identity is.
Stefanie: I’m a procrastinator. I’m, I’m always late.
Stefanie: It’s letting go of that and understanding that it’s not a thing outside of you or circumstance. It’s actually just what you think and really recognizing and becoming aware, hey, this is just what I’m thinking. This is just how I identify. I don’t have to think this way. It’s optional.
Stefanie: And then just awareness is the first step, and awareness precedes change.
Stefanie: So, that’s just something that I wanted to offer to all of you is just be aware of that. It’s not just something out of your control.
Stefanie: You have the same amount of time every day as every human being on this planet. Time is really what you make of it and how you think of it. You do have the authority on how you spend your time. You get to decide.
Stefanie: So, aware that you’re not the identity that you’ve created about time, and then also understanding, you have the same amount of time as everyone else, and you get to decide how you spend your time.
Stefanie: Managing your time creates an impeccable identity, especially with being a business owner. Your clients will trust you more with that impeccable identity around your time and theirs. You’re taking the power back in your life and being the deliberate creator of your life.
Stefanie: And like I said, you’re building trust with yourself and others in the way that you choose to spend your time. It’s the secret sauce to success, and it’s really just doing what you’ll say you do.
Stefanie: You’ll do it in a consistent way when you manage your time, you’re practicing self-trust and showing up consistently.
Stefanie: Most people don’t manage their time, because they look at it as more of a challenge it can be.
Stefanie: For most people, they think it’s very intimidating because it’s something that they haven’t really done before.
Stefanie: Most of the challenges that arise from clients or people that I have, you know, met or spoken to, even at networking events, is being a perfectionist.
Stefanie: Sometimes people are a perfectionist, and then they don’t want to get things done if they’re not done perfectly ahead of time.
Stefanie: So, listen to that. If it’s not going to be perfect the first time I do it, or perfect ahead of time, I’m not going to do it anyway. So, then you end up not getting anything done.
Stefanie: Or I’m not planning my time out perfectly. I don’t know how to do it.
Stefanie: Another challenge would be, is the inability to constrain focus on getting one thing done at a time. Sometimes it can be very overwhelming looking at a to-do list. Especially as an entrepreneur, business owner and going, I have all these things to do.
Stefanie: Let me spread myself thin in all these different areas. And just be all over the place thinking I can get them all done at once, but nothing ends up really getting done.
Stefanie: And then sometimes people have a hard time making a decision or choosing what to constrain their focus on, because then it’s actually time to do the work.
Stefanie: Time management is a skill that actually must be learned and it must be practiced.
Stefanie: Another challenge can be, is you don’t know how to plan. We are the only species as human beings that can plan things, but we don’t want to because we think that instead of planning things we can just do them. You think that planning is a waste of time and then waste time due to lack of planning?
Stefanie: And you may have experienced some failure in the past when it comes to planning your time and managing it. And then you don’t have the trust in yourself knowing that you’ll follow through on your plants. So, you just end up not doing it at all, because you don’t trust yourself, or you don’t know how to do it.
Stefanie: Another challenge can be the tendency to overthink. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what the right decision is. I don’t know what’s the best thing to do. What’s the thing that’s going to yield me the highest return on investment of my time.
Stefanie: So, you spin around in indecision, overthinking it, and you’re spending all of your energy overthinking the decision versus actually making a decision.
Stefanie: Over planning, something I see very often, is being very ambitious on what your, what your time, being very ambitious on what you can get done.
Stefanie: Under-, overestimating what you can get done in a short period of time. And then setting yourself up for failure ahead of time. Instead of actually being realistic in constraining your focus on getting one thing done at a time, you’re spreading yourself thin.
Stefanie: And then the last thing that I’ve noticed is resistance. When you say you’re going to do these things and get these things done.
Stefanie: Your brain loves indulging in pleasure. It loves instant gratification. It loves wandering off to Lala land. It will not want to do the thing that you’ve set out to do. And that is a part of the process.
Stefanie: The one thing about resistance is, people take that as, I don’t, I, this resistance is a sign that I shouldn’t be doing this, or I’ve picked the wrong thing, or I don’t want to do this, but really developing the skill of moving through it, is the answer rather than reacting to it.
Stefanie: Most of us have trained our brains to reacting to the resistance. But it isn’t permission to quit, it is actually payment to get things done.
Stefanie: If you want to get things done, you have to learn how to develop the skill of moving through resistance, and it also gets easier to deal with over time.
Stefanie: One of the mindsets that I’d really like to offer for you to embody when you think about managing your time and your mind is that, everything in your life is optional, you don’t have to do anything.
Stefanie: There is not one thing on this planet that you have to do. Everything is optional. You don’t have to do anything. You get to do everything. And that’s a game changer, especially with being an entrepreneur.
Stefanie: A lot of the energy around being an entrepreneur and time is very panicked. It’s very rushed. There’s like, scarcity around time, there’s scarcity around getting things done as though you have to.
Stefanie: Someone forcing you, someone tying your hands behind you and going you have to do this, and it’s really, just the way you’re thinking about it.
Stefanie: You get to do everything. You’re choosing how you spend your time. You’re choosing to be an entrepreneur. You’re choosing your career. You get to do everything.
Stefanie: Another perspective, that I like to offer for you to embody is, that think of your mind in two different parts or categories.
Stefanie: So, I have two different parts of my brain, that I like to think about one of them is my lower brain. It thinks reactively. It’s very unintentional. It’s like a toddler with a knife. It’s running around and, and it wants to do whatever it wants. It gives in to, in temptation. It believes resistance is a legitimate reason to quit. It offers thoughts that are not useful. It’s favorite thing to say is I’m trying.
Stefanie: And then you have your higher mind. Your higher mind is the part of your brain that has developed the skills to become the supervisor of your lower mind, which is the toddler with a knife. What it does is, it supervises that part of you and becomes aware and recognizes when you’re in resistance, when you want to give in to temptation.
Stefanie: When you offer yourself thoughts that are not useful and conducive towards creating productivity. What it does, it’s not amused by temptation. It stays focused. It thinks about, about the bigger picture. It thinks about creating results.
Stefanie: So, I have a process that I actually go through with my clients in more detail, but I kept it a little bit more brief for the sake of the time in this meeting.
Stefanie: Um, so the process that I teach is deciding ahead of time with deliberation and intention in regards to time management.
Stefanie: So, what I challenge my clients to do is pick one day out of the week and carve out two hours in that day to make decisions ahead of time for how you’re going to deliberately plan your life and your week.
Stefanie: When you are in this two-hour period, I always like to look at it as a very sacred time because I think about it as you’re planning the way you live your life. You don’t get to do this. You don’t have to do this. You get to do this you.
Stefanie: Get to make decisions for how you live your life in a two-hour period of no distractions, no phone, no emails, no notifications. This is a 2-hour sacred time to plan your life.
Stefanie: The first step is creating a to-do list download, so you grab a blank sheet of paper. And you empty everything out of your brain on this blank sheet of paper. It’s a to do list download. You are taking everything that’s in your brain, you’re putting on a piece of paper so you can see it right in front of you.
Stefanie: Everything goes on the sheet of paper. Things you want to do, things you think you have to do even though you know you don’t have to do them. Things you didn’t get done. Big projects, tasks, little things, anything you can think of. Put it on the piece of paper.
Stefanie: Spend at least 15 minutes doing this. And every time you, you’re blocked or you can’t think of something, just ask yourself what else, what am I missing? Get as detailed as possible. Be as thorough.
Stefanie: If it’s, if, on the list, I’ve got to go to the grocery store, add a grocery list. If I’m got a doctor’s appointment. Add in driving. You’ve got to drive to the doctor’s appointment. Every small detail you can think of, for everything in your to-do list, download, write it down.
Stefanie: You’re going to be tempted to think, this is so much to do. I’ll never get all this done. Obviously, that’s where your brain is going to want to go because that’s just, we as human beings, that’s what we like to do. Worst case scenario, all the time.
Stefanie: And then you might be tempted to get to work right after doing this, but just let your brain sit for a second. And breathe a sigh of relief. You just got everything out of your brain. It’s on a piece of paper. It shouldn’t even be in your brain anymore. You’ve got it down.
Stefanie: After do you do your to-do list download, what I do is, I categorize the to-do list outlook. So, if there are big projects, like for instance, here’s a great example for me recording my podcast. I set aside focus time in my week to record my podcast.
Stefanie: What I recommend is focus time being about 2 hours between three to five days a week in dedicating time to long term goals, or for your passions, or something that you really want to focus your time on.
Stefanie: Schedule- that is one of the categories that I offer for you to put in your to-do list download, the next one will be tasks. Everyday things like appointments, groceries, laundry, pick-ups, drop-offs, errands, if you want to call them that, that’s another category.
Stefanie: The other one that’s very important to label in your to-do list download is personal, free time. This time is for you. Whether that’s going and getting a massage or going to get your nails done or your eyebrows, whatever. Things that you like to do for you. Reading, listening to a podcast.
Stefanie: My personal and free time includes going to the gym. I like working out, so I scheduled that in as my personal time.
Stefanie: And then the last one is your minimum, non-negotiable. As a business owner, it is so important to understand what the minimum non-negotiable’s are in your business. These are things that you must do and are vital to keeping you afloat, and that you will not allow yourself to negotiate around. They’re the bare minimum.
Stefanie: After you have categorized your to-do list download, what I offer is, start calendaring. Whether it’s on paper, whether it’s online, get a calendar.
Stefanie: And what I recommend is, the way I do it is I have an actual planner and it’s a weekly planner. And what I do is I start plugging in the things from my to-do list download, in this order, into time slots in my calendar.
Stefanie: Minimum, non-negotiable first. Free time next. Tasks and then focus time. Include your work hours and be realistic with how much time you decide things will take. Include travel time. If you know a doctor’s appointment is going to take you 15 minutes to get there, add that into the time slot in your calendar.
Stefanie: The other thing is be realistic. I already spoke about the overthinking the over scheduling. Don’t spread yourself thin. Be realistic with the things that you think you can get done when you decide how much time these things are going to take you to do.
Stefanie: And be very generous with the amount of personal free time you allow yourself to have. That’s very important.
Stefanie: After you calendar, you follow through. When it is time to commit and actually do the task that you’ve committed to, your brain will try and justify and move things around. It’ll try not to do something. It will find everything else to do besides the thing that you’ve decided ahead of time that you’re going to do.
Stefanie: And one of the other key things about time management is that you decide ahead of time with deliberation and intention on what you’re going to get done for the week. So, then your brain will try to go against that, but just recognize that that is your lower brain getting in the way.
Stefanie: And it, and it’s doing what it wants to do, and it wants to give into resistance. It wants to give into temptation. It wants to distract you.
Stefanie: Let your higher brain be in charge. Remember, the decisions have already been made ahead of time.
Stefanie: I also want to acknowledge that we’re human beings and we have lives, and as much as you may want to schedule time, there will be things that come up. There will be things that come up and in that regard, I also recommend creating a protocol that you can fall back on just in case these things come up, for instance.
Stefanie: If there’s a family emergency, that’s in your protocol. If there is an injury of some sort, or a health ailment or whatever you want to put into your protocol. Decide ahead of time, what are acceptable excuses for you to use to excuse yourself from committing to a task?
Stefanie: But deciding ahead of time what they are, will prevent your lower brain from making the decisions for you, because you’ve already made the decision ahead of time based on what’s in your protocol.
Stefanie: As I’m wrapping up the other thing, I like to offer that I do every single week, whatever the end of your week is, some of us work on conventional schedules, but whatever the end of your week is, evaluate.
Stefanie: This is your opportunity to really look at what worked for your week in your time planning. What didn’t work and then what you can do it differently and whatever the what you can do differently part is do it.
Stefanie: Evaluating is a way of you being able to really uncover and really adjust your time management and time planning to do what works for you.: 00:27:56: This isn’t a cookie cutter process. This isn’t a 1 size fits all.
Stefanie: And celebrate your wins. Look at what is working and acknowledge that hey, you know what, I am doing something right. I am managing my time. I am creating results for myself. I am getting things done. That is something to celebrate.
Stefanie: Like I said, this isn’t a one stop shop overnight process, managing your time.
Stefanie: Managing your mind is something that takes practice, but the more you practice it, the more progress you’re going to make.
Stefanie: Practice doesn’t make perfect. Practice makes progress. Time management is a skill that must be learned and implemented consistently. You don’t do it one week and then the next week not do it.
Stefanie: But I’m gonna tell you what, it really is so effective in how you show up in your life.
Stefanie: When you fail at it, remember, it means you’re making progress. Failure means you’re making progress. You don’t have to be perfect. Don’t give up.
Stefanie: If you’re a person that has really taken in the identity that you always run late, that you’re a procrastinator, that you’re someone that doesn’t know how to manage your time or whatever it is. Remember, you’ve practiced that identity for so long, it’s so comfortable for you.
Stefanie: When you manage your time, you thrive. You’re the creator of your life. And like I said, do what works for you.
Stefanie: Make modifications when necessary. I believe in you and reach out to me if you need help. I’m open to any questions.
Stefanie: If any of you want coaching and feel comfortable enough to want some coaching on this call, let me know, I’ll help you out.
Ryan: So, Stefanie, I have a question. Yeah, so you mentioned earlier in your presentation that busy is a mindset. So, how do you, how do you help someone understand or come to the conclusion, things that they’re worried about that don’t matter, how do you help them choose between what’s important and what shouldn’t or doesn’t need to be as important?
Stefanie: So, the thing is, is that, I don’t necessarily help people choose, I think what I, what I really love doing as a coach, is that I help people become resourceful.
Stefanie: I don’t become their crutch for what they should or shouldn’t do in their lives or making decisions, but what I do do is this. Most of the time people are very unaware of what their thinking creates in their life.
Stefanie: So, think about this. I have a tool that’s called a model and it creates awareness.
Stefanie: So, let’s say for instance, someone thinks something like, I’m busy and they feel overwhelmed, and then we go through and I go through their actions.
Stefanie: OK, when you think you’re busy and you feel overwhelmed, tell me what actions you’re taking. Tell me what actions you’re not taking, and more, and more than likely, in their action line, the actions that they’re taking are spinning around and indecision, they’re putting off the work for another day. What they’re not doing is taking action towards that task or the commitment and what all, what it usually always results in is that what they create for themselves is not getting anything done.
Stefanie: So, what I do is, I teach my clients to become resourceful. Awareness precedes change.
Stefanie: So, let’s say we-
Stefanie: That’s an unintentional model because a lot of people think unintentionally.
Stefanie: What I do, is I create an intentional model for them and so we take that circumstance, whatever triggered the thought, I’m so busy.
Stefanie: I have them list out their circumstance in a factual way, right? All of the things you think you have to do. Tell me how you want to think about those things?
Stefanie: One thought I can offer, usually the one that helps me the most is I get to do all of these things. This isn’t a problem. I can get these things done and then that feeling might be more determined, motivated, focused, and then in your action line you’re going to have something like, create a plan of action in regards to what I want to get done first, constrain my focus on the item that’s the most important to me right now.
Stefanie: The action line can look like not allowing myself to be distracted by the list, picking one thing, and moving on, and what that creates result is, that thing gets done.
Stefanie: So, that’s how I help my client because like I said, when you identify as someone that’s busy or I, it’s just you think that’s, just who you are, so, you’re, you’re unaware of it. So, I hope that answered your question.
Stefanie: Does anybody else have any questions?
Kim: Hey, Stef-
Stefanie: I think you froze up just a little bit.
Kim: Presentation. Uhm, I just want to say about, you know, what you said about you get to do something versus you have to. I remember when my girls were small and I was doing laundry and, you know, little baby clothes and so on and so forth. And I had struggled so much with infertility.
Kim: So, when I had two babies, my mom said, Oh my gosh, look at everything you have to do. It’s a lot, isn’t it? And I and I remember thinking so grateful, so gratefully that I get, and I said to her, I said, I get to do this. I don’t have to do this because I was so grateful. So that kind of came to mind when you were talking.
Kim: And the other thing, let’s see, was overestimating what you have to get done. And making it realistic. I think that’s my problem, and I, I appreciate you bringing it to my attention. I think I’m not realistic a lot of times when I make my plan and I can’t get things done. And that’s frustrating, so, you, you know, it’s a vicious cycle and you just stop planning because you feel like you can’t get it done. So, I’m gonna, I’m going to be more mindful with my planning and I, I just so appreciate you speaking to us today. It’s very helpful.
Stefanie: Wow, thank you so much. It’s I just, I love helping in in areas because like I said, there’s so much we’re unaware of. And it, like the smallest mindset shift around it.
Stefanie: So, why do you think you over schedule and, and, and over like, why do you think you do that?
Kim: Because I think I’m Wonder Woman, and I can do it all, but the funny thing is, is for my customers, I am very intentful and I, I manage their, I want to manage their expectations so, you know, I’m, I’m almost overly managing my customers expectations of what the process is for them to get new equipment and what to expect from me.
Kim: But I just don’t do these things myself, I don’t manage my own expectations. I’m good at doing it for my customer but I need to practice more intently on doing it for myself.
Stefanie: What are your expectations?
Kim: For myself? Oh, oh, too much. I mean, I want to do it all. I want to do everything, and I end up spinning like a little gerbil on a wheel and I don’t get anything done. I get to a point where I just am stagnant and I, I do nothing. I do something else because I can’t wrap my head around getting all my stuff.
Stefanie: And so, when you shared that story about, you know, struggling with infertility and how can you apply that, I get to do these things. Your situation that you have now with the expectations that you have for yourself, yeah?
Kim: Yeah, I know you have to draw these parallels.
Stefanie: I said you don’t have to do any of those things.
Kim: No, I get to.
Stefanie: You get to, but then it’s also think about this too. I want to offer you. You are Wonder Woman. Regardless of if you get the things done or not right. You’re almost hanging it, like hanging your tasks as like a carrot on a stick.
Stefanie: If I don’t get these things done, it means I’m not Wonder Woman. I want to offer to you that you get to be Wonder Woman, either way. You get things done or not, like your productivity doesn’t determine how much of a Wonder Woman you are. Yeah.
Kim: I, I feel like I need to lay down on a couch and have a session because a lot of this stems from, from being an adult child of an alcoholic and always trying to please people and always trying to make everything perfect and always trying to get every single thing done. And it’s, it’s a, it’s a forever challenge, even at 60 years old trying to, uh, you know, learn and grow and, and just understand what my limitations are.
Stefanie: Yeah, it’s because a lot of us, and I struggled with this as well, you know, it’s like my productivity determines my worth, and I want you to just take that productivity out of your like, your aura of your self worth. Like, there’s you and then there’s productivity.
Stefanie: You know, it’s not, that’s not your identity. And I think that what I’d like to challenge you to do is spend some time really thinking about what productivity means to you, what you’re making it mean about you. And trying to find a way to separate yourself from that as your identity, because you are not your productivity.
Kim: Right. No, I hear you, I hear you. Thank you again.
Stefanie: You’re welcome. Does anybody else have any questions?
Kathy: I don’t have a question, but I was going to agree with, with what she was saying because it’s like, you, you do tend to over overdo everything and then it is spinning a wheel and yeah, I, I can totally concur with her.
Stefanie: Yeah, because it’s like in our brains. It’s like, oh, everything so nice and shiny. It’s gonna look better on paper if I get all this done, but then at the end of the week, none of it gets done.
Stefanie: And that’s why the constraining your focus part is so important when you work on one thing at a time you’re more likely to get that one thing done than spreading yourself thin, spinning around in the decision, trying to get all the things.
Stefanie: And guess what? It’s not all or nothing. A lot of us, we have this black and white thinking when it comes to our time.
Stefanie: It’s like either I get this done or I’m not productive or I’m not doing enough. And guess what?
Stefanie: This is another thing that’s so mind blowing. Enoughness is not a unit of measure. It is just a decision. And you get to decide what enough is.
Stefanie: OK, so if you ever think you’re not doing enough. Tell yourself, I get to decide what enough is. That’s my choice. All right.
Kathy: Yeah, that’s good.
Stefanie: Well, I wanted to tell you guys, I was so excited to speak to all of you today, I don’t know if you can tell. I love running this mouth.
Stefanie: I love talking to people and I really appreciate you taking the time out of your day to listen to me speak about this. I’m really passionate about helping people, really passionate about what I do.
Stefanie: This has just been my life’s work, I just wanted to give you a little taste of it. I appreciate you guys giving me your time.
Ryan: Stefanie, can you say again how anyone can get in touch with you, if they’d like to learn more, or if they’re ready to hire you as their coach?
Stefanie: Yeah, absolutely, so, in the chat. Oh, hold on. I’m actually going to pull up this slide again for you guys. I have my information here. Let me share screen. I’m getting better at technology, OK? OK, so let me close this down. There we go.
Stefanie: OK, so right here I have my e-mail address. Uhm, send me an e-mail. I can send you a link on my Calendly Page to book a one-hour consultation. I give people a free one-hour consultation.
Stefanie: Whether you decide you want to work with me or not, there’s absolutely no obligation. I’m so passionate about what I do and helping people manage their minds and really create a life for themselves that they deliberately want, where they’re thriving and not just surviving.
Stefanie: Uhm, we can do a 1-on-1. I give you one hour of my time. You give me one hour of your time. I will tell you exactly, you’re going to tell me what you think your problems are, I’m going to tell you exactly what the problem is and how to fix it. And whether you decide to work with me or not, you’re going to walk away more aware.
Stefanie: Remember, I said awareness precedes change in the areas of your life where you have more opportunity to thrive. So, send me an e-mail, I’ll send you a link.
Stefanie: I also have, I’m on Instagram. I don’t know if any of you guys are, but I post Reels, tips on how to change your life posts. You can comment, you can DM me. But those are the ways you can definitely get ahold of me if you’re looking for a little bit more.
Ryan: Everyone, let’s give Stefanie a hand for her presentation today.
Stefanie: I, I really appreciate it. Thank you, guys.
